27 June 2008 @ 02:42 pm
That housing slump has been hitting, pardon the pun, home  
My brother is moving in with us on Sunday.

In the past year he lost his job in the mortgage industry, finalized his divorce (giving nearly everything he owned to the ex-, incl. the furniture, household, & kitchen stuff we bought him before they got married), apparently worked some deal for Volkswagen to sell off his car that hadn't worked in over a year but for which he couldn't afford repairs & insurance anyway to satisfy the last few months on his car note, worked in a laptop repair facility that was a modern day sweatshop before his ride to the building disappeared when his coworker got a new job, and has generally hit bottom.

He has had a rough year. Our first task after moving the paltry worldly goods he has left is to get him a job. One I can drive him to and pick him up from as Houston is NOT known for its mass transit system. *sigh*

Tonight and this Saturday I'll be cleaning out all the junk I have in the guest room. I have no idea where it will go; it's in there because I don't have anywhere else to put it. I suspect I'll miss tomorrow's Pride Parade for which I bought two expensive bleacher seats, damnit, because I'll still be working on it all. (I still have my bone collection in there from my days as a faunal analyst. I'm guessing at this point I could throw it away. I don't know anyone in need of a type collection who can come to get it before I move the brother in on Sunday morning. Good thing it's heavy trash on Tuesday.)

Our house is *small* and it already houses the two of us, the dog, Joe's business, Joe's recording studio, and the Flying Fish Sailors merchandise. I suspect everyone's stress levels will be running high for the next several months.
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Ginger[personal profile] gentlyepigrams on June 27th, 2008 08:33 pm (UTC)
The stuff he can rebuy. Freedom is priceless.

I'm sorry he's going through all that and that you are too.
[identity profile] la-directora.livejournal.com on June 27th, 2008 09:16 pm (UTC)
Oh, word to that. I'm not saying he should have fought for it. I'm just frustrated for him that he went through a situation that ended up that way. But, yeah, sanity over stuff EVERY time.
Mish[identity profile] hsapiens.livejournal.com on June 28th, 2008 12:18 am (UTC)
I'm still livid that she apparently wanted him for his citizenship. She was here illegally apparently, he spent a lot of time and effort to get her legal after they married, and as soon as she had her status she moved on to her boyfriend whom she was actually in love with. *THAT* is what I'm most worked up over. I'm disappointed that what I tried to for my brother was completely undone -- and a mind fuck added -- by an unscrupulous person but I'll get my head back to the right place when it comes to mere physical possessions.

Until I realized the extent to which he just walked away, I had no qualms about his doing what he felt was necessary for his sanity. I will never say anything to him about it, of course, but I'm re-examining my opinions on the wisdom of earning the money for one's own basic supplies.
Mish[identity profile] hsapiens.livejournal.com on June 28th, 2008 12:09 am (UTC)
You're absolutely right and that has been my attitude -- especially since it was his choice and he was the one living with the consequences. Also, I had no idea that she essentially got anything and everything in their apartment.

However, as I'm realizing that she ended up with the computer I bought him, the dining room table & chairs, the dishes, the silverware, the pots & pans, the book shelves, the books, the DVDs...a HUGE number of things that I stretched my budget for over the years to buy for him. Now that I realize the depth of just how that sacrifice was for nothing I find it depressing.

I have learned a valuable lesson, though. I didn't want him to suffer the penury I did when I had no furniture at all, when I used my ironing board as my dining room table and my books sat in piles around the otherwise empty living room. I always resented my parents a little for cutting me loose without a lot of very basic items; I wanted better for him. Not that he'd have everything but he'd have at least some place to sit, to eat, and to sleep. Had he struggled more to acquire those items, he might well have tried for a more equitable division.

In the end, I'll be in perfect agreement with you again but for now, I need to pout and be unhappy. On the plus side, I don't have to find an extra $100/month to pay for a storage unit to hold all the stuff. I'm trying to make that happy piece of news count. :)
Ginger[personal profile] gentlyepigrams on June 28th, 2008 12:30 am (UTC)
He'll have a chance to learn that lesson now, looks like.

Getting divorced is depressing. Combining that with the sham marriage and the job troubles, I can imagine why it wasn't worth it for him to fight for his possessions. Poor guy.