I have no idea how many women engage in such behaviors. I can't imagine wanting to do it so it makes no sense to me. I utterly fail to grok this. Watching my brother's wife ask him to order for her, her inability to more than whisper to waiters, he eating off his plate while never touching hers...it all made me want to take her outside, shake her, and tell her to grow the fuck up.

I'm lucky to have Joe and I know it. Not because I refuse to be a little girl but because he's such a great man. I have no idea how I lucked into him - well, I do have SOME idea and it was the blabbermouth of one mrkamikaze to whom I am infinitely grateful - but I don't think it's necessarily something that's within me that makes me "deserve" him or that I've compromised myself to get him. Talking about the bizarre nature of common male/female mating patterns doesn't make me worry about my own foundations or worry that others think I've compromised. I think your luck just hasn't hit yet. That's entirely different.

I'm not expressing myself well. I think I need some food. And a nap. :) Ah, vacation.